As the population ages, so has the demand for dating sites and apps tailored to their needs. In recent years the number of users aged 55 to 64 has doubled, and that number continues to grow.
Platforms that try to exclude older users had better be on notice. A Tinder user sued the company for discriminatory pricing that favored younger users. The California Court of Appeals overturned a lower court’s dismissal of his case, writing in its decision, “Because nothing in the complaint suggests there is a strong public policy that justifies the alleged discriminatory pricing, the trial court erred. Accordingly, we swipe left, and reverse.”
Chappy, a competitor to gay hook-up app Grindr, faced accusations of ageism when it was discovered that users over 50 were automatically prevented from taking part in a customer service survey. Chappy’s head of brand, Sam Dumas, rushed to address the outcry. “Chappy is a dating app that welcomes all users over 18,” he said. “We take full responsibility for this admin error and the survey has now been amended accordingly.”
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In the time of COVID dating has become a complicated undertaking.
In fact, according to Match.com, daters are searching more seriously than before. The dating service found that more than half of Americans (63%) said they’re taking more time to get to know their dates. Video dating is also on the rise, with 68% using it as a means to determine if they want an “in-real-life” date.
Experts are cautioning, however, that those who want to date should first find out where your potential partner stands, or essentially, have the “COVID Conversation.” We’ve enlisted the help of experts to find out what questions you should ask, whether that’s before the first date, during the first date, or on a subsequent date. We took their advice and boiled it down to seven questions to ask your new date. The goal here is to get a sense of where they stand early-on as you both learn more about each other.
Read the full article: How to Date Safely During COVID: 7 Questions to Ask
Mashable writer Leah Stodart rated the dating apps most likely to appeal to the over 60 set:
- Zoosk: for those who aren’t really sure what they’re looking for in a partner
- eHarmony: for people looking for a serious long term relationship
- EliteSingles: for seriously picky people
- SilverSingles and Our Time: for those who want to limit their search to people their own age
Read the full article: Dating over 60 doesn’t have to suck
In an NPR feature, OurTime user Anna Fiehler described the benefits of meeting her now-husband online. “I think it’s a real opportunity for folks over 50,” she said. “The computer and these applications aren’t isolating, they’re actually providing incredibly rich connections for people … and it can be really worthwhile.”
Read the full article: Dating Apps Can Help Older Adults Meet — No Time Machine Necessary
In Australia, women over 45 are the fastest-growing group of users of dating sites. Lindy Alexander of the Sunday Morning Herald interviewed psychotherapist and relationship expert Melissa Ferrari noted the appeal of meeting a partner this way. “Being convenient and accessible, online dating may also offer a wider selection of potential partners. Especially if they live in a remote area, are shy, or work long hours. It can make life easier, too, for those with teenagers or young adults still living at home.”
Read the full article: What’s it like to enter the online dating scene in middle age?
Dr. Chris Donaghue, therapist and host of the Loveline podcast, is challenging ageism in the dating realm, especially internalized ageism. “No one fully escapes the enforced panic of aging and the covert feel of needing to find a way to avoid it. It gets better for some… but ageism is still powerful for all of us, along with body-shaming, which all tie together to make us less secure as we develop,” he writes. “You are not ‘too old’ for anything. Not too old to wear something, to date a certain person, to make a career change or to be sexual…. Don’t act your age; act yourself. Don’t date age-appropriate, date you-appropriate. To be yourself in our culture — which tells you to always be something else — is a radical act. Be a proud radical and ally, and don’t oppress yourself or others with notions of age.”
Read the full article: Ageism and Dating: You Are Not ‘Too Old’ for Anything or Anyone
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